HOW WOMEN DECIDE, by Therese Huston.
The 89 points to keep from this great essay, by Gemma Cernuda
1. Intuition
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- Women make decisions based on their intuitive radar.
- Intuition is your inner GPS guiding you to the true north. Oprah Winfrey.
- Intuition feels like knowing.
- Intuitions are fast, are accompanied by strong emotions, they make holistic connections and skilled observations.
- Men and women are equally intuitive
- Women are more analytical and systematic in their thinking in the work place
- Men see themselves as visionary and women as justified.
- The message we hear again and again is that women have empathetic advantage.
- We need higher oxytocin and lower testosterone levels.
- The collective intelligence of a group was positively correlated with the proportion of women in it. More women, better choices.
- Intuitions aren’t open to introspection, so we don’t know how we arrived at a thought
- We can learn to recognize patterns.
- When can an executive trust their guts? You should never trust your gut. Gary Klein ( champion of intuition)
- To deliberate you have to know the conscious steps you take to analyze your options.
- I’d rather have a good decision than a fast one..
- How you think you make your decisions shapes the quality of your judgement.
- But my gut; that’s me. Authenticity.
- A dilution effect; an irrelevant observation dilutes what’s really important
- You can’t improve your unconscious intuitive reactions
- Women might think there are tapping into their priorities , but they might just be tapping into their biases
- Women’s intuition is seen as a powerful and unique way that women make choices.
- Expert intuitions are fast, holistic and unconscious.
- Women have learnt to be more accurate at deciphering emotions from others, facial expressions and body language.
2. Dilemma
- It’s hard to be seen responsive to others and decisive
- Women are seen as ; warm , kind, friendly and patient. Men as decisive; those are “bias for action”.
- Indecisiveness is a chronic inability ,leader is described as ; honest, truthfulness and decisive
- Less than 1% of police chiefs and sheriffs in the US are women.
- We expect her decisions to reflect the helpful, concerned and sympathetic role she plays for those who depend on her.
- Women take care and men take charge. Care VS Charge.
- Women can’t be agentic and men can’t be communal.
- Women tend to be more participative in their decision-making, compared to men, which is sometimes perceived as a lack of ability to make decisions.
- Research shows that leaving room for input is more common among women, especially when female leaders are compared, to male leaders.
- Women have the willingness to seek advice
- Almost every company hired a financial advisor when it received a bid
- If a decision has to be implemented, gather as much input as you can from people.
- Women are mucho more sensitive to changes in context
- Women respond to how many people would be affected by risky decisions
- In the US and EU boys are supposed to be stronger at math.
3. Risk Taker
- Investors are 60% more likely to invest their money in a project pitched by a man, than one pitched by a women.
- Sayings as; a man has to do what a man has to do, you need to man up, are you a man or a mouse, grow a pair… doesn’t help at all.
- Being assertive for a women os one of the less attractive things ( by men)
- Women who are working their way to the top, fall farther than men, when they take a risk that doesn´t pan out.
- Finding supporters is a wise investment of your time
- Risk taking is not a personality trait but a skill.
- Do you know more than anyone else in the room? YES. Do you know everything that needs to be known? NO. (Go back to point 1)
- Risk taking is the crucial skill that separates a manager from a leader
- Men are judged by their future; women are judged by their past accomplishments
- Only 54% of men take more risk than the average woman.
- Think about what are the consequences of these decisions in 10 minutes, 10 months, 10 years?
- Women take more social risks than men by necessity.
- Women tend to be good at guessing how much trivia they’ll know about films and tv shows aimed at female audiences
- Women highly knowledgeable in the world of finance, another field traditionally associated with men, were under confident of t their abilities and predicted that they would know less about finance than they actually did.
- Familiarity gives a bad sense of expertise
- Difference might lie
- The difference might lie in who did the evaluations
- Men do ask for rises and seek promotions more often than women
- Men apply for a job when they met 60% of the job requirements, women 100%
- Overconfidence squelches debate
- When you are overconfident, alarming information doesn’t alarm you
- When you’re convinced you know better than most people, you don’t enforce even your own policies.
- You can turn your confidence up when you need to be heard, and you can turn it down when you need to listen and make a hard decision.
- It is the consistency of the information that matters for a good story
- Overconfidence gives people a reason not to seek extra data, they stop asking questions.
- If patients don’t believe in their care teams, they don’t recover as well.
- Self-promotion consists on making one’s competence visible.
- Women are penalized for self-promotion, while men are not.
- People don’t like women who self-promoter.
- Women don’t ask.
- We expect all of you to self-promote, you’ll be rewarded not penalized, for doing so.
4.Stress
- Whereas men were having bad days, women with identical expressions were labeled emotional.
- Tagging women as risk-averse suggests they are going the wrong way; therefore there is a right way.
- Males and females approach risk differently under stress conditions. ( rats and fish)
- Males fight, females flee.
- Females tend and be friend
- Under threat, females need a strategy that minimizes risk rather than embraces it
- Men find risks attractive under stress; women are down to the sure thing.
- Is going to be the companies that take the big risks , that will make the big profits
- Having more women in the room helps only when their views are taken seriously.
- Women become more task-focused. They don’t aim for over the top. They aim for achievable
- The only way to make sure the risks are named and evaluated is to raise them
- People pick women to lead when things are falling apart.
- Having the right amount of confidence improves decisions.
5.Terrible Decisions
- We need to learn to recognize bad decision conditions as well. We need to ask WHEN people will have trouble making a decision, not WHO is likely to have that trouble.
- Women tend to be more democratic in their decisions, asking others for their input.
- Women are often decision-helpers.
- Desperation changes one’s decision.
- When loss threatens we all become risk-takers.
- Older adults prefer positive information over negative information.
- The ability to focus on the positives, is an indicator of a strong emotional and mental health
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